Parents of teens need all the help they can get so here's a few more tips from me.
Keep optimism high - in the midst of teen angst we can get pretty morbid about the present climate at home. Counteract this by nurturing an optimistic outlook. How? Fast forward to your teen's twenties. Trust me, they will eventually turn for home, loving your company & valuing your advice. Go there in your head now.
Switch out of trainer mode - 0-6 yrs parents are benevolent dictators, 7-12 yrs trainers & then 13+ coaches. When your kids become teens it's game on! And you have to switch from trainer mode, controlling everything, to coach mode, releasing them into the larger world bit by bit. Don't overprotect. Don't over comfort. Don't smother them. Release them.
Pray & often! God can do more than you so lean heavily on him thru these years.
Friday, June 13, 2008
More hot tips for parents of teens
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Thanks for that post John. It put into words what I have found with raising our two girls. We are in the 7-12 age group and that makes a lot of sense what you said.
PS. My wife agreed with the poll results about men with the flu!
Dave I remember my daughter being in that age group - so cute! Her teen years gave me an another opportunity to shape her future as a loving dad willing to coach her. It'll go well for you I'm sure
Not surprised by your wife's thoughts - I think all wives think we are sooks when sick!
Great post! What do you do for a living? I didn't see it on your blog. I work with students at a church and I am always looking for insight like this! By the way what is a sook? Being from America I don't have a fat clue what that is.
Hey Rob a sook is Aussie slang for someone who craves attention, whining all the time, overstating the need, soft as jello! What would the US equivalent be?
What do I do for a living - actually I'm a pastor, check us out www.c3hh.com.au
Thanks for cruising by
John, I don't know if we have a term that fits that. I would probably just say they are needy. I will now add sook to my vocabulary!
Sook is a great word to add Nth American vocabulary!
Your blog says you live in Yorktown Vancouver - a nice part of the world.
It's actually it's Yorktown Virginia...also a nice part of the world. I've enjoyed reading your blog. I stumbled across it on Vince's blog. Do you get to speak to schools a lot? Do you have more nuggets of info like you dropped in this blog? I would love to read them if you do.
Oops! Apologies ... must have been reading it late at nite! I'm sure Yorktown Virginia is brilliant as well.
Don't do much speaking in schools but our church has some great schools ministry going. In Australia we have open access to schools with chaplains & lunch time programs
You could check out our website for more articles ...
http://www.c3hh.com.au/index.php?option=com_content&task=category§ionid=11&id=26&Itemid=10455
Or if you want send me an email address & I'll send an excerpt form our book Raising Great Kids that focuses particularly on teens
Glad you enjoy the blog
John, thanks for the info. If it is not too much trouble I would love to read an excerpt from your book! My email address is rob@watersedgechurch.net.
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